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This is one of the passages that I wrote in my second book, Teens Matter Most. I have so much love for our teens! That's why it was so very important for me to write this book. Our teens need and deserve proper guidance, love, support, and somebody that's going to tell it like it is without sugar-coating the truth. You do NOT want your children to learn the hard way. Keep it real with them!
We can't keep sitting back and doing nothing to save our teens! We as parents have an obligation to do right by them and give them the tools that they need to do well in life. It's our job to teach them everything that they need to know so that they won't get caught up. It starts at home! We can't afford to be lazy parents. We need to parent like it really matters...Because it does! They need us y'all. It's time to step it up so that they will have a fair chance. Set good examples for them to follow! Trust me, they are watching you more than you think. Be parents that they can be proud of and speak highly of. Set them up to go in the right direction! You'll be glad that you did!
And now I introduce to you: CHOICES ( From my book Teens Matter Most) Available on Amazon.com.
Choices, Choices, Choices. Let’s face it, we all have to
make them. If you think about it, everything that we do starts with a choice.
Let me give you some quick examples of what I’m talking about.
We make everyday choices about what we’re
going to eat, what we’re going to wear, deciding what time we’re going to
work-out, what time we’re going to wake up or go to sleep, etc.
Now that I have your attention, I would
like to discuss important things that you may have to make decisions about. As
teens, you are faced with so many things on a daily basis and it can sometimes
be overwhelming, exciting, and scary too.
I want to discuss your friends. Be
mindful of the people that you call your friends. If people are truly your
friends, they will want to see you do well in life, and they won’t try to put
you in a position where you can get into trouble, hurt yourself or others, or
completely ruin your life by making a bad decision that will cost you big time!
Choose your friends wisely. Try to pick
out people that share your same interests. It would also be wise to hang out
with people who have good morals and values. I know that some teens don’t give
it any thought, but you should. Be careful of the company that you keep.
I’ll leave you with this to think about
regarding friends: Make sure that they TRULY like you and have your best
interest at heart. A true friend will be honest with you and bold enough to
tell you when you’re wrong. They don’t want to see you go down the wrong path.
These are some things that you should
also consider when you’re deciding on friendship: Are they trustworthy, honest,
dependable, supportive, selfless, a good listener, respectful of themselves and
others? There are so many things to consider. Also, here’s a quick reminder:
Genuine friends won’t be jealous of you. Please keep that in mind. I know
you’ll make the right choice.
Okay, let’s talk about drugs and alcohol.
I’ll try not to get too long-winded on you, but this is an important topic.
We all know that if you’re under the age
of 21, you shouldn't be drinking or using drugs. But the fact of the matter is,
teens are drinking and using drugs. I will
share this with you: Underage drinking and drug-use is irresponsible and you
risk the chance of putting yourself in some compromising positions.
Underage drinking and drug-use can cause
the following: Death, addictions, mood changes, getting arrested, getting lower
grades in school, poor performance in your extracurricular activities, etc. I
want you to think smartly! You can’t afford not to.
Don’t be pressured or fooled into thinking
that everybody’s doing it or that it’s the thing to do. That’s not true. It’s a personal choice and you don’t have to
be a part of it. Choices, Choices, Choices! It’s a part of life and I want YOU
to make the best ones. You have more important things to worry about, let’s not
add more trouble to your plate. Your plate is already full.
Do you, or somebody that you know, like
to: shoplift, steal vehicles, burglarize homes, fight, and/or keep up trouble?
Let me give you something to REALLY think about.
This kind of behavior will destroy you
and your life! Some of you may be saying, “Not me, I've never been caught!” Or
some of you may be saying, “It’s cool or fun!” You may think it’s all fun and
games now, but what IF…
Could you see yourself in juvenile hall?
Or, if you've already been there, done that, do you remember what it was like?
I don’t know about you, but I wouldn't want to be locked up being told what to
do. They have complete control over you and there’s nothing you can do about
it. You have to follow their rules. Period, end of story.
If you continue on the road that you’re
going down, you’ll find yourself in jail and/or prison. I want you to imagine
being there for a second. I mean REALLY imagine. I don’t know about you, but
I’d be scared to death being in those cells with people from all walks of life.
If you don’t know, SO many awful things go on behind those walls. I mean awful
things! Some people get raped, beat up, and/or killed. You don’t have any
don’t think you would enjoy taking showers out in the open with total strangers.
I don’t think you would enjoy sitting on toilets that everybody else is sitting
on. I don’t think you would like the food that they provide you. I don’t think
you would enjoy the fact that you have to share a cell with somebody that you don’t
even know. I don’t think you would like other inmates taking or stealing your
I don’t want this to happen to you. You
don’t want to make a choice that will literally ruin your life. Think about
your actions and how it can cost you. Could you imagine standing in front of a
Judge and he sentences you to LIFE without parole? Imagine hearing the words: I
sentence you to: 10 to LIFE, 15 to LIFE, 25 to LIFE, LIFE without the
possibility of parole, or DEATH.
I’m pretty sure shoplifting, stealing vehicles,
burglarizing homes, fighting, and starting trouble doesn't seem so fun now.
Your life is worth more than that. Think about that the next time you even
think to do something that you know isn't right. It’s your life! Make it count
for something great! Make something of yourself!
to yourself: “I didn't sign up for this shit!” Married, but feeling lonely.
Married, but thinking about cheating. Married, but dealing with more than your fair share of everyday
life situations. In your marriage vows, you promised to love your spouse for
better or for worse, but sometimes it’s much
easier said than done, right?
have their challenges, some bigger than others. For some odd reason, when we
get married, we think that our lives are going to be this perfect union until reality shows us something different. In the
midst of working, going to school, taking care of the kids, trying to please
our spouses, and handling all of the responsibilities of home life, things can
get extremely overwhelming AND
sometimes we feel like we've lost all control. Unfortunately, when we
experience pressure that we’re not used to, our attitude, behavior, and the way
we think can be all over the place. Our emotions tend to get the best of us.
As humans, we
can sometimes be selfish without even realizing that we’re doing it. It’s all
about OUR wants and OUR needs. But have you ever stopped to think about what
your spouse is going through, too? Although you’re married, you have to
remember that you’re both individual people. You both have your own personal challenges and struggles. It’s life!
Nobody’s exempt from issues.
Like reading a
good fiction, romance novel, cheating takes you to a place where you feel fulfilled,
even if it’s temporary. For that period of time you feel free! Free from the
realities of the real world. That leads me to what I would like to talk about
Loneliness and Cheating in Your
feeling lonely, huh? I get it! Your spouse isn't showing you the attention that
you desire. Your spouse isn't spending enough time with you. Your spouse doesn't make love to you the way that they used to. Your spouse is SO busy that
they miss out on the things that are TRULY important to you. Your spouse just doesn't seem to be interested in you like they used to be. You just don’t feel
appreciated, and communication is nonexistent. And when you DO try to talk, it
just ends up in a heated argument over the smallest things.
With all of this
“stuff” going on in your life, temptation is having its way with you. You’re
tempted to do some things that you know aren't right. But what the hell, right?
You’re sick of this crap and you need a break from it all.
Let Me Ask You a Question
Have you even
tried to communicate your feelings and thoughts to your spouse? Do they know
what and how you’re feeling and/or thinking about? Listen, if you don’t communicate
what you’re feeling, it’s not fair to your mate. It’s just not! If you want
something from your mate, you have the responsibility to do your part. Open your
mouth and speak up! You can’t expect your mate to know what’s going on in that
mind of yours if you don’t say anything.
No matter how difficult or painful it may be,
you have to talk about it. Communication can save a relationship from going
down a road of pain, hurt, regret, anger, and betrayal. If you’re feeling
lonely, communicate that to your partner. Set aside some quiet time where there
won’t be any distractions. Make sure that you have their full attention, keep eye contact, and ensure that they fully understand the feelings that
you’re experiencing. Don’t down play what you’re feeling. Your mate needs to
know that you need more of them. Whether it is more time, sex, attention, etc… it needs to be brought
to the table.
Seeking Comfort Elsewhere Won’t Solve
Don’t get caught
up! Temporary pleasure can turn out to be your worst nightmare. Don’t become a
victim simply because you want to feel good for the moment. You may find
yourself in a situation that you never saw coming. What you thought was
temporary, is now YOUR secret. Irresponsible choices can cost you big time!
Think it Through
Could you REALLY live with yourself if you cheated
on your partner?
Would it be
worth losing the person that you know you love and care about? Would it be worth
possibly losing your family? Would it be worth destroying his/her trust in you?
Would it be worth having to start all over again with someone who doesn't even
compare to your current spouse? Would it be worth it to see those tears in his/her
eyes? Would it be worth seeing the pain that you've caused on his/her face?
Would it be worth it to destroy everything
that you've both built together? Would it be worth it to break their heart over
your selfishness and weakness? Would it be worth it to betray the man or woman that
you promised to be faithful to? Or furthermore, would you be able to forgive
yourself, if you gave your spouse an STD? Always remember this: When you decide
to cheat, you’re taking a huge risk. A risk that could turn your life upside
Some things just aren't worth it. Think! Think about what your choices could do to you, your partner, and maybe even your family. I encourage you to be mature enough to
make the right choices. The wrong choices can literally ruin your life, and to
me, ruining your life over a quick fix is just NOT worth it! Not at all.
So, you think you've got yourself a real winner, huh? Well, let me give you something to
think about. Hold on tight!
some of you are thinking way too small, and some of you aren't thinking at all.
Any man can buy
you gifts, take you out, and spoil you like crazy, BUT…
But none of that
compares to a man who truly cherishes you, loves you, respects you, and treats
you like a woman of value.
I see so many women playing themselves short.
What do I mean by this? Let me explain.
Many women will
allow a man to cheat on them, talk crazy to them, stay out all night long,
abuse them, and all sorts of other things, but as long as a man is providing
them with the material things that they desire, they accept their behavior. Now isn't that something?
A lot of women
play the role like they’re running things, but in actuality, they’re playing
themselves. I don’t care how you try to paint the picture, if you’re with a man who doesn't fully respect you, you’re losing out, and yes, you’re settling
If you can be
bought by material things, then there’s something VERY wrong with that picture.
Material things shouldn't be that important to you where you’re willing to
subject yourself to whatever a man dishes out to you.
Shoes, clothes, purses,
trips, dining out, spa days, etc... don’t mean anything if a man is half-ass
treating you right. His respect for you as a woman should mean EVERYTHING to
A woman who
respects and values herself cannot be easily bought or flattered. It takes much
more than that. A real woman knows her worth and she won’t settle. A real woman
won’t allow material things to sway her. Material things get old after a while.
A real woman wants a man with real substance. Material things are just a bonus
in her eyes. That’s right, just a bonus! She’s wise enough to know that
material things will not and cannot hold a relationship together. If a
relationship is based on materialistic things, then what do you REALLY have?
Think about it ladies! Is your man giving you
his VERY best? Remember, I’m not talking about material things. I’m talking
about mentally, physically, and emotionally. Does he make you feel secure in
your relationship? Does he truly value you as a woman and as a person? Does he
respect you when nobody else is around?
There are so many questions you can ask
yourself. Do that for yourself! Ask yourself the hard questions. Do you truly
matter to him? Do you? Be honest with yourself. It’s time for you to get real
Every woman, and
I do mean every woman, wants to feel and know that she’s wanted in a
relationship. So let me ask you this: Do you feel like you've settled? Did you
get lonely? Did you or are you overlooking “what truly is?” Are you with
someone that’s not even your type? Are you allowing a man to just have sex with
you? Are you playing second? Are you his secret? Does he even claim you?
Women, you've got to wake up! You've got to set standards for yourself. If a man is denying
you, hiding you, playing you, etc, you can only blame yourself. You see the
play that’s going on. What are you gonna do about it? It’s all up to you. You
hold the keys to how a man treats you. You do! Nobody else but you.
You know you
deserve better. You know you’re wasting your time. You know he’s no good for
you. You know he hasn't quite grown up yet. He’s not the man you desire, but you keep fooling yourself into thinking that you can change him. You know all of these things. He’s shown you over and over what he’s all about.
It’s better to
be by yourself and have peace of mind than to be with a man who isn't worth
shit! I've got to keep it real with you! I’m not going to steer you wrong. If he’s
not giving you what you desire in a man, get rid of his ass. Stop wasting your
Do you realize
how many men are out there looking for a good woman? Plenty! Trust me! A lot of
women think that there aren't any good men left, but that's NOT true. They’re out there.
If you truly desire a good man, set yourself free from that headache. You've got to be available. Staying in a dead-end relationship is draining, a waste of
time, and it keeps you from clearly seeing what you could have.
are a blessing when it’s shared with the right person for YOU. Give yourself a
chance to be loved and truly happy. Love yourself enough to know that you can
do better, and you will get past this. NO MORE SETTLING. No more!
Men, this one is for you!
So, you think
you’re REALLY “the man” just because you have a woman on your arm that’s as sexy
as they come. She’s got all the right curves in all the right places, she has a
beautiful face, and all the men are intrigued by her. She’s simply gorgeous, and
that makes you feel proud!
I’m about to
open up your mind to a whole new level to hopefully get you to THINK and NOT
be so weak when it comes to a woman’s looks. If you’re one of those men that
fall for a woman solely on looks, you’re bound to get caught up sooner or
What good is
having a fine woman on your arm if you’re always dealing with unnecessary
bullshit? Let me break down what I’m talking about.
going out of your way to please her, but she’s never satisfied. She just wants
more and more. Every time you’re out and about with her, she just has to be the
center of attention. It’s all about HER. She doesn't fully respect you as her mate
or as her man. You always have to keep an eye on her because, deep down, you
know her kind. But she looks great, right? I mean what man wouldn't want her?
right! She loves to spend your money that you've worked so hard for. If you
really take a good look at her, you will see that she’s NOT all of that. She’s
not! She may have a body that makes heads turn, but so do many other women.
What else does she have to offer you or your relationship? What else?
So I’ll ask you these questions: Is she REALLY
worth it? If you didn't have what you have, would she even be with you? Don’t
fool yourself on this one. Be honest! What good is being with a woman and you
know she’s all about the money? What good is it?
I get it, she’s fine! Okay, AND…
And what else?
How could you possibly feel like you're “the man” and you know the truth? You
know if you lost all that you have, she’d be gone in a heartbeat. You know this!
You know if you don’t give her what she desires, she’ll move on to the next.
You know she uses her looks to get what she wants. You know, you KNOW!
You deserve a
woman that loves you for YOU. You deserve a woman that’s going to support you,
encourage you, be by your side and represent you and your relationship. You
deserve a woman who will still love you if you were to take a fall and lose it
all. She’ll stick by your side because she truly believes in YOU. You deserve a
woman who’s going to be faithful to you and give you all of her love. You
deserve a woman who you can trust and confide in. A woman who’s gonna have your
back and not be doing foul shit behind your back.
A woman who believes in being faithful to one
man. A woman who can make you feel good even on your worst days. She won’t be a
thorn in your side, she’ll be your peace, your joy, the reason you smile when
things get hard. You need a REAL woman!
represents what a woman should be to her man. She’s confident so she won’t need
to seek attention from another man. She’s not a run-around. She’s not easy. She’s
not a gold digger. She’s none of those things.
So with all of that
being said, MEN, don’t be so easily flattered by a thick ass, pretty face, or a
woman who calls herself a bad bitch and/or a diva. If you’re not careful, you’ll
get exactly what you asked for. Instead, take the time to get to know the woman
you’re going after. Everything that looks good isn't good. Yes, a woman can
have the looks and she can appear to be “the one” but, if you’re not careful, you
can end up getting a rude awakening. Some women are very vindictive when they
can’t get what they want or control you anymore.
I’ll leave you with
this: Be careful who you chase after. You could be chasing a BITCH from hell
that will suck you dry for every penny that you have. And if you pick a really
bad seed, she’ll try to take everything from you, JUST BECAUSE.
Don’t let a
thick ass get you caught up. Don’t let a beautiful face get you caught up. Don’t
let that be the reason you become bitter after she plays you like her toy, and
now you've got the attitude that all women are no good or they’re bitches.
Be mindful of
who you choose to spoil. Be mindful of who you choose to spend your hard earned
money on. If you pay close attention, you’ll know who’s deserving of what you have
to offer. Use common sense. Real Talk! Don’t get caught up. Don’t do it!
Many people look down on them, so that’s why I wanted to write about it just to
give you all some real
food-for-thought. Hopefully after reading this passage, you’ll have a change of
heart if you’re one of those people who feel like ALL homeless people are lazy, just want a hand out, don’t want to
First of all, I
want to say that I thank God that I've never been homeless, and I pray that I
never will have to face something like that as long as I live.
Why am I writing about this
and why do I even care?
As I’m out and
about I see homeless people all of the time and instead of looking down on them
in disgust, I ask myself, “I wonder what happened to them? What is THEIR story?”
Do you realize
that not all homeless people are bad people? They are human! Some people that
are out there just had an unfortunate fall in their lives and for whatever
reason, they were never able to get back on track.
I’m about to
share some examples of what could have happened in their lives. I can’t
possibly name them all, but I just want to give you something to think about.
man that you turn your nose up to, did you know that he lost his wife and kids
in a car accident? That’s right! A drunk driver ran a stop sign and hit their
car from the right side and killed everybody except him.
His family meant
everything to him. Yes! He had the
nice home, the fancy cars, the booming career, but all of this meant nothing to
him anymore because he had nobody to share it with. He’d always been the strong
one in the family, but this was just too much for him to bear. He lost it!
That lady that
you just looked and shook your head at, did you know that she had a childhood
from hell? Yep! She was abused all of her life by the hands of her own father.
Her mother knew about it, but she acted as if she didn't see anything.
When this little
girl grew up and was old enough to leave the home, she was already damaged in
every way possible. So she took to the streets just to get by. Now that’s she’s
much older she just walks the streets talking to herself. She’s literally out
of her mind. For many years she used drugs just to try to numb the pain, but
instead, she got caught up in the street life. She honestly tried SO many times
to get it right, but her painful past always got the best of her. She just didn't have the strength, will, or courage to pull through her past.
You know that
young adult that you see hanging out at the park down the street from your job.
As you walk by, you always think to yourself “Why is he always carrying around
that baseball and glove in his hands?” Well, did you know that he lost his
mother at the tender age of 14, and he and his father have greatly struggled to
let her go? This young man has endured a lot in his short life, but his father
did the very best that he could. Unfortunately, he lost his father 3 years
after his mother passed away from cancer.
This young man
was left on his own. He didn't have any close family that he could turn to. His passion has always been playing baseball, although he doesn't play anymore. Carrying
his baseball and glove brings him a little peace in his mind. It reminds him of
his beautiful parents and how they used to support him. They were his
He’s homeless, but
he stays at some nearby shelter when there’s room available. Not only could he
have gone pro, but he was a straight A student that took all honors classes. But
all of his dreams were shattered when he lost his father. That was the last
straw for him. He’s a good kid, but he just doesn't have the drive anymore. He
just exists with no motivation or hope for himself.
You know that
older gentleman that just asked you for something to eat? Although he hasn't shaven in God knows when and he smelled like he hasn't had a shower in days,
this man used to be somebody that everybody respected and loved!
You see, he used
to be a very successful banker, AND he was an accomplished artist. He not only
had a successful career, but he volunteered his time helping at-risk youth in
underprivileged neighborhoods. Everybody loved him because he had a big heart, and he truly cared for people.
But one day
while he was at work he received a devastating call informing him that his best
friend, whom was his grandmother, had just passed away. His grandmother taught
him valuable things about life. He was who he was because of her constant love
and support. When the love of his life passed away, he was never right since.
He started drinking heavily until it took control of his life and consumed him.
He lost everything!
Although he was
highly educated and extremely articulate, he couldn't keep it together. Who
would have ever thought that he’d be going down this road? No one! But life
I’m going to
bring my examples to a close, but I want you all to remember this: You don’t
know a person’s story! It’s not always what it looks like. Be thankful and
grateful for what you have and know that YOU
are truly blessed!
America is VERY real for many people
from ALL walks of life. Try your best
to remember that the next time you have an ill thought about them, because they
count too! Sometimes things happen to us in life and it can really take a toll
on us if we’re not strong enough to handle it. Trust me, it can happen to any one of us. - Stephanie Lahart (Author & Poet)
I wanted to
write a passage about racism, so I’m doing just that.
I used to get
really angry at people that were racist, but now that I’m older and wiser, my
heart actually feels sorry for people like that. Here’s my take on racism.
Back down memory lane...
I can remember
back to when I was in high school. I had a lot of friends from all backgrounds.
As a matter of fact, my best friend
was white. I had Latino friends, African-American friends, Asian friends, White
friends, etc. You name it! I had friends from all cultures and I loved it! We didn't see color. We had fun with one another because we all shared some of the
same interests. Things like: music, dance, certain classes we took together, family
life, and plans on what we were going to do with our futures. And I can’t leave
out the fact that there was plenty of laughter, joking, and good times back in
That leads me to what I’m
about to discuss.
anybody live their life disliking and/or hating a person because of the color
of their skin? I just can’t wrap my mind around that. I couldn't imagine living
my life hating a particular race JUST BECAUSE. It’s pure ignorance and makes
absolutely no sense to me whatsoever.
Now, I can
understand if you don’t like a particular
person, but the whole race? Really? What could you possibly be getting out of
this? Why do you choose to be so mean, evil, and hateful? Is it because you
were taught to hate other races? Did you grow up in a racist household? Do you come
from a family that feels like they’re more entitled than others? Look, there could
be all kinds of reasons WHY, but I
would like to challenge you to do something for me.
Open yourself up
to new relationships of different races. Learn to give people of other races a
fair shot. Don’t be so quick to judge them by the color of their skin. You
could be missing out on great relationships! Learn to look at people’s character as opposed to the color of
Now let me ask you a
question: Do you
honestly think that everybody in your race has your best interest at heart? Do you
think that everybody in your race can do no wrong? When I turn on the news
I see all races doing VERY bad
things in this world: Rape. Murder. Committing robberies. Burglarizing people’s
homes. Watching child porn behind closed doors, although to the public, they're a well-respected person. Molesting children and ruining their lives.
Shooting up schools and colleges, etc. And GUESS WHAT? It’s not just ONE
race doing these horrible things. It’s ALL races!
I said all of
that to make this point. People are people! You’re gonna have your bad apples
in every race. So you have no right to point fingers at a particular race. You
just don’t! Every race has bad people and there’s no arguing that!
I myself am a
fun-loving, giving, outgoing, funny, and all around great person to know. I am
true to being myself! I love life! I value life! I enjoy life! And I love
people for who THEY are.
I’ll leave you with this: There’s SO much going on in this world. We ALL need one another whether you
want to accept it or not. We need more peace, love, and togetherness.
I encourage you
to stop being closed-minded. Learn to be kind to others and be a good person.
Stop putting all of your negative energy into this world. Look at people in a
different light for a change.
I’m sure YOU’RE not perfect yourself. Nobody is.
Just like everybody else, you have your own issues that you deal with too. No matter
how much money you have, where you live, status, or whatever the case may be. You’re
not exempt from anything in this world.
Really take a
look at who YOU are as a person and make some positive changes in your life.
Move forward and change how you view other people. You’ll be freer as a person.
I’m sure of it!
Do you realize
how much energy it takes to be mean and hateful? How could anybody be TRULY
happy with hate in their hearts? I just don’t see how that’s possible. Let go
of negative energy and live life with peace in your heart!
PEACE…There’s nothing like it! - Stephanie Lahart (Author & Poet)